true lover knows that the secret
to his power over women lies in
the power they have over him. He
is a friend to women. He is delighted
by the way they flow through life
and the way they occupy the world.
Their essence enamors and enchants
him, and in return he can't help
but celebrate them.
He is a romantic; he believes
in love, and his love is complete,
absolute. He is a slave to his love
of women. There is no room for misogyny,
no hint of presumption, no toxicity
He knows that women can sense
immediately when they are in the
presence of a man who loves women,
who thinks they are beautiful, who
makes them feel lovely, who delights
in them. He genuinely loves women,
and a man that loves women
is loved by women.
He feels no need to validate
himself to other men by bragging
about his exploits. He never kisses
and tells... ever. His
encounters with women are never
about bolstering his own self-esteem
or adding another notch to his bedpost.
It is all about respect.
|It is never about taking something for himself, but always about sharing something with her.
For he knows that all experiences in life are amplified once they are shared.
His biggest fear is to be perceived
as just another man; he is not like
other men, nor does he aspire to
If he thought for a moment that
she regretted her encounter with
him in any way, or somehow felt
sad or hurt because of him, it would
break his heart. He can't bear the
thought that a woman would ever
feel she was manipulated by him.
And yet he doesn't mask his desires
as a man. He never portrays indifference
or apathy in an attempt to sneak
under the radar. Instead he embraces
his sexuality, presents it to her
without presumption, is delighted
if she responds favorably but deeply
respectful if she does not.
He enters every one of his romantic
adventures with newness and excitement,
like his first love all over again.
He knows that the impact he makes
on her, and that she makes on him,
will resonate with both of them
And will he be hurt? Will he
feel the pangs of loss when it ends?
Of course. But he loves it all just
is the greatest aphrodisiac...
He lives his life believing that
every interaction in life is, in
essence, a seduction. And so he
assumes a woman is always
interested. It might be a false
assumption, of course, but it is
a pleasant assumption, and so it
is the way he has chosen to live
He never defends himself when
accused of being a player. He knows
the truth: that he never plays with
a woman's emotions. He is at peace
And so he makes no attempt at
apology or justification for the
way he is; he desires neither empathy
nor absolution, nor even, for that
matter, understanding. He has no
need to defend himself because women
are his greatest defenders.
Instead he believes his intentions
are pure and mutually desired. He
is genuine and honest, maybe the
most honest man she has ever met.
And women have demonstrated over
and over to him that honesty
is the greatest aphrodisiac.
And to him, they are all
his girls. Every woman is his woman.
He has immense compassion for women.
He sees their sadness and their
loss, their faded dreams, their
dead and dying relationships, their
stultifying careers and responsibilities,
and he makes it his mission to impart
beauty to their life again.
Yes, he has been created by women,
formed by them, and inspired by
He shares in their secrets...